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Jangling Nerves, cafe culture and the Alexander Technique

Photo of a messy desk

I shared a bedroom with my sister until I was about 10. There were lots of pluses to our cohabitation. Excitedly standing at our bedroom window together, on Christmas Eve, trying to spot Santa on his sleigh, was one of them.

On the minus side, I was absolutely challenged by stuff all over the bedroom floor. I still remember the visceral reaction to the chaos. To my sister, the floor was her playground and storage space. It was bliss when I got my own room, though it was extremely tiny. My Dad built cupboards in the room for me. Essentially it became a cupboard from floor to ceiling, with a window and a bed in a recess. It wasn’t hard to keep it tidy.

Somehow, I coped with my sister’s chaos, and over the years I became tolerant to “excessive-to-me” sights, sounds, sensations, emotions, touch, movement: all stimuli. However, if you saw my desk right now you would not think I liked things to be ordered and calm, nor that I still panic when things get too messy. My husband describes my desk filing as a “sedimentary” system and when it gets to full height he describes it as shale.  There is a logic in the chaos as the heap consists of things I am challenged to categorise and thus store,  jobs pending, and things at the ready. I can tolerate the mess up to a point. When I have completed a job, or when I work out where they belong, they are filed away, A-Z style.

Lately,  my tolerance to life seems to have shifted. Visiting cafes (a beloved pastime of mine) is a challenge. It has been gradually changing, but became really obvious last week, when I visited a local cafe that has just been re-furbished. It has huge windows, and the bustling street beyond is in the experience. They have opted for a wooden floor and wooden tables which all scrape and bang, and culminate in unique background percussion. They have lovely twinkly, bright lights, and the sun streams into the windows: it’s a bright environment. They also fitted an extractor fan in the open kitchen and its noises, plus the focused, pressured, yet light-hearted kitchen atmosphere, pervades the whole space. Add to that, the background music, which isn’t really background, customers who turn up their volume to be heard, hissing espresso machines, serving staff darting around. I had ordered, paid, and was sat there realising that it was just-too-much-for-me. I felt every cell in my body was vibrating and I wished for more calm than that cafe could offer.

I gained a better understanding of why things have changed for me when I read an article by Kate Wagner, in The Atlantic (an American magazine):


It’s an interesting read. Essentially the sparse modern decor increases noise, whereas the older style cafes had more noise absorbing furnishings. Therefore cafes are generally louder.

So, what did I do when I received my parsnip soup, focaccia, and berry tea? I decided to just be with the whole nerve jangling experience. I used the Alexander Technique to stay present, grounded, and get to know what this experience was really like for me, rather than brace against it and escape from it. I could then nurture myself with the food, luxuriate in the warmth of the radiator next to me, and even enjoy the cacophony. I also pondered on the merits of noise-cancelling headphones.

Do you notice if you brace against excess stimuli or too much chaos? Do you notice the effect it has on your body? Would you like to explore a way to be more aware of your reaction to these things and choose what to do about it? Get in touch! Have a few Alexander Technique lessons. We could even explore the process in a cafe together!

Jane Clappison

Alexander Technique Teacher

01759 307282



4 Comments  to  Jangling Nerves, cafe culture and the Alexander Technique

  1. Bridget Gerstner says:

    Dear Jane, I have noticed throughout my AT training how sensitivebI have become to noise, especially background music. Actually, I think this sensitivity was there before and definitely since my kids were born but now I am more aware of it. If I am alone, I can sometimes open my ears and allow the noise to be registered without closing down and getting stressed. However, if my younger daughter adds to it, the stimulus gets very strong. Your article resonated with me. Thank you. Oh, I have noise-cacelling headphones and appreciate them on journeys. Sadly, they do not create an absence of sound aka silence. They add more sound at a frequency which cancels some low, rumbling noises.

    • janec says:

      Bridget, thank you for your comments. Acknowledging what is (opening your ears and allowing the noise to be registered) is a great strategy. I also love the negative directions like those mentioned in Missy Vineyard’s book. I particularly used one when listening to my fellow students reading F.M. Alexander’s books: “I am not listening” stopped me from straining to understand, and by doing that, I calmed down and actually understood more.
      My husband has noise cancelling headphones so I should give them a go on your recommendation!

  2. Ali says:

    Dear Jane
    I have a hearing condition – otosclerosis aka thickening of the tissues and ligaments that convey the sound waves to the internal ear. The stapes becomes fixed in the oval window. What a wonderful way to describe the shortcomings of my sense of hearing. But like so many people with hearing issues, too much sound can be as great an issue as too little sound. I have discovered since working with you Jane, that AT gives me the option of allowing the sounds to come to me, or to focus on one sound, one voice, or absorb more than one sound. AT gives me options and a choices, which I never imagined I had.